The best way to avoid regrets is to face problems

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Should a girl ask the guy for his number? Who should make the first move?

"If a guy makes a move on a girl and she turns him down, the guy loses face. But that's not it.
Because what normally happens is that the girl would go back to her pack of girlfriends, and then she'd go, "Like, oh my god. You won't believe just what happened. Did you, like, see that guy over there, like, make a move on me? He was like, totally ewww. I was, like, just sitting there and he's like, 'Hey, can I like buy you a drink?' and I was like 'No wayyyy, I'm too cool for you!' Like, whateva!"
Then they'd all giggle among themselves while you stand there looking like an idiot." Quoted from Kennysia.com
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My opinion

Personally I think that everyone has the right to pursue their way of life, their ambitions and most importantly, their lifetime companion. Seriously, I think gender is not important as in, as long as you like someone, voice it out. Gender only matters if you are gay or something, which means you are not STRAIGHT.

Initiative is very important. It seems that the norm is very tough on the guys. Guys have to make the first move.. get the blame and then in the next day or two lose face. Some people say face is ego and that guys should put aside their ego because 'love' is much more important than that. I totally agree that love is much more important, but what is the point when the day you took your chances to get closer to a girl, all the other girls takes you as a pervert or an idiot.

Based on that, I really think that whoever has feelings towards someone should make the first move.. regardless of their gender.

Sometimes in a society, males outnumber females. One example is China where the numbers are so obvious due to the one child policy.

So I throw one question to females.Do you prefer to get chosen by a group of desperate guys.. or would you rather look for your prince charming?

I mean you shouldn't have the "couldn't care less attitude" when things like these determine your future...right??

So back to the question again..,
Should a girl ask the guy for his number? Who should make the first move?

Derek | 10:14 pm