The best way to avoid regrets is to face problems

Friday, May 22, 2009

Give thanks

I think I’m losing what I used to have. Perhaps this is called change. I have yet to embrace what I have gained, still holding on to the small things. This has made me sad, but I have no regrets because the more I lose, the more I know that moments like this will never repeat. A lot of people say go on and continue life. Life is like that. Things change. To be honest I choose to hold on. But not to hold on to the moments I missed. It is to hold on, to the hearts and feelings that we used to share. I know everyone is busy, busy to the point that everything becomes difficult. People say distance makes the heart fonder... but at the same time, I see a lot of broken relationships too as a result. To make or to break, ultimately is our choice after all. The key is priority and initiative.

How much time do we have? It doesn't matter. What matters is what have we done.. Have we impacted each others lives?

Being busy and all doesn’t make you important. Yet friends look for you. You could do the same.
Being poor and all doesn’t make you important. Yet friends don’t desert you.
In fact, when you lack, friends will be there.
The real meaning of friendship is more than just having fun but by being there. Fun just follow..

Friendship is not an “I owe you“ relationship.

It is everything else:
" I love you"-------------------
" I care about you"------------How are you? Can you cope?
" I know you"-----------------
" I miss you"------------------How are you? Haven't seen you in ages.
" It's all about you"------------

A Yes or a No. These are simple ways to answer questions.
Yet beyond a Yes is acceptance, beyond a No is rejection. How many times have we said no? We live in a busy world. We have no time to think, to consider others. We just run our own lives and later on, we get amazed by everything that has been done for us.

Sometimes, .... we are all just like that. Too ignorant. We take things for granted. We should give thanks and appreciate all that we have.

Derek | 8:34 pm

Monday, September 15, 2008

Just a thought

We envy others for what they have, but we are clueless about what they lack.
Why do we always think that the grass are greener on the other side?

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Imagine ... yourself isolated from everything, behind a waterfall. You sit there and the days slowly pass. Seriously..it's damn boring. It makes people restless. That's how I feel. I have been without computer for days. Well, I use them in Uni and my friends but it's not a personal computer. It makes a lot of difference. After the fall of my laptop, my usb drive becomes so important! All my assignments are there. God forbid there shall be no more hardware failure from now on. =). Despite that, I'm trying not to complain. People say, if the old one's don't go, how can the new one's come right? loL. I'm looking forward to it! I've been waiting for a month... and I'm still persevering.haha. It's tough!.

My mum, me, my brother and my father.

Me, my mum and my brother.

Derek & Danny during my Canning College graduation

Jack & Da Yong

Dinner at Reen street

I forgot what the idea behind this was but.. nice picture!

Executed

Lol. Yan Hua

Military camp! Marching in the middle of the night. Forgotten who made us do it.ugh bad memory. lol

Jia Huei & I

Sara & I

Yee Fang & I after her baptism

Pei Ren looking fierce.=p

Vaguely remember but I think its during a baptism

Nice picture!

Traffic light! Just the colours. I don't even know if the arrangement is right.haha

Red Yellow Red Yellow

G4to

Another G4to. haha

Okay! Those were some of the pictures that were saved because they were in my usb drive. They were recent. The other's are lost! hopefully I could recover them from my old laptop. That aside.. I'm looking forward to a lot of fun things but I am procastinating all the things that are supposed to be done. One of the events would be Search For A Star. That's an event I certainly want to sit back and enjoy.=)

Derek | 4:29 pm

Monday, July 07, 2008

I find this interesting. Only from the heart can you touch the sky...only from the heart can you touch the heavens.
The condition of your heart.. what is it?

Your sincerity
Your intentions
Your gratitude

Your obedience
Your love

How far will you go to do something? Do you really believe you can make a difference?

Derek | 9:19 pm

Monday, June 16, 2008

I haven't written on this paper for so long. I have many things to write. As random as they can be, it just means that I have many thoughts. I am going to pen them down, right here right now.

Is blogs worth it?

Blogs now are not just a diary. It need not be a diary. Now, it is an open space to spill out thoughts. In fact anything the writer writes or expresses knowing that anyone could read it, constitutes blogging.

Some people think that blogging is a waste of time.

- Reason being, they think a blog is a diary. But, the inability to write down every part of your private life and emotions because of privacy reasons makes it pointless.

But, they need to know that blogging has evolved. Different writers have different styles of writing. This does not only involve the topics. But, also the way writers buildup their ideas for others to have a good picture of what the blogger wants to portray. Now there are photo blogs, shopping blogs, travel logs, business blogs, personal blogs and blogs that write about everything. The beauty of it is, it is unofficial, yet it gives widespread publicity. A lot of people read blogs! Despite negative feedback from protective governments, blogging is becoming more and more popular. Good and interesting bloggers are becoming celebrities. This is the irony. A person working so hard can only earn so much, but a person writing as a hobby might become rich and famous.

Blogging is not the same anymore. It has no identifiable target because its scope is so wide. It touches everything. It can’t be ignored anymore. Businesses are having blogs. Governments are trying to control bloggers.

Blogging is not the next big thing. Blogging is THE BIG THING now. Just so you know, Dr Mahatir of Malaysia has a blog too.
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Giving is blessing, be it encouragement, a smile, gifts or help. It lifts another person, makes their day and shows your character.

To give or not to give?
How much to give?
People are always told to give. It's a one sided thing. What if, the problem does not lie in giving? It lies in receiving.

How are people going to give if you refuse to receive? Likewise how are you going to give if they do not want to receive?

Every time giving occurs, there must be another person at the receiving end.

People always think that only the poor, the very sick can receive. That is not the case. In fact, all that is in need can receive, be they rich or poor. If only the poor can receive, the world would have been stunted and would have growth retarded.

“Encourage the poor and help them. They will gain the strength to stand by themselves. After that does that mean you stop giving? They might not need money, they might need encouragement because after all, a successful person, no matter what their background are still human."

The needy can receive. The poor can receive. The rich can receive. Everyone can give and receive.

Giving : "He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose". Among all things, God promised to throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have enough room for it if they trust him and bring the whole tithe to the storehouse.

In both statements, he who gives receives. Therefore if you give you have to learn how to receive. It is just natural.

Derek | 4:57 pm

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Accepting responsibilities as a part of life

Responsibility is something everybody has. Responsibility have weight and their weight varies on different people. Sometimes different circumstances lead us to judge that we have a lot of responsibilities.. OR .. that responsibility is too big for me to handle. Then it becomes a burden. Of course we manage that in many different ways... sadly these are the most common. We do not take it seriously.

At times, we totally shift it to another person. We say we delegate tasks.
At times, we try to run away by belittling your responsibility. For example, with "with or without me things will turn out fine".
At times we just try to do the minimum to get things done.

I think there are two ways of looking at it.
Responsibilities Versus life
&
Responsibilities And life

Some people think that responsibilities cause their life to be harsh, troubled and not as good as others. Because of this, they try to drop all their responsibilities. They resort to alcohol, mess up public properties and sometimes they do nothing at all. Just eat and sleep. The problem is, responsibilities are part of life. They are not against each other but they are a part of life. If you have no responsibilities, what would you be doing? Seriously ask yourself this question. Of course now that you have responsibilities you would say I wish I had none, so that I can do anything I want. But when you don't have responsibilities, you won't know what you want and what to do. You won't appreciate things. For example, during the holidays. Some people are free. So free. They really don't know what to do. They go to find jobs. They pick up the responsibility themselves.

People need responsibilities, big or small because they are a part of life.
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On a lighter note. Got this from my friends blog. It's pretty old but it's still funny.

Derek | 9:54 pm

Monday, April 07, 2008

Ambiguous and silly quotes

Is this what happens when people speak spontaneously. They speak without thinking? They speak in tongues? haha. :)

"Ladies are requested not to have children at the bar."

"MIDNIGHT BOWLING SATURDAY AT 9 P.M." --> Makes sense huh.

"SAFETY FIRST: Please put on your seat belt - prepare for accident." --> Contradictory!

"We can repair anything. (Please knock hard on the door - the bell doesn't work.)" --> Close shop please -_-''

"I would say that anything that is indecent and violent in TV is a crime against humanity and they should shoot the head man responsible." --> How does this work?

"I may be dumb, but I'm not stupid." --> Is it true that when you're dumb.. you can only become 'dumber'...

"We didn't lose, we weren't beaten, we just came in second." --> Admit it! You lost

"We all get heavier as we get older because there's a lot more information in our heads." --> hahaha. If you're heavy/ fat you're smart. =)

Been quite happy today despite this week being a busy week. 2 mid sems, 1 presentation and a book review. To date..none's done yet. 2 going to be done tomorrow and the other 2 on Thursday. Melvin received his birthday present from Adrian today and Da Yong also had his share of fun. =p

Derek | 7:27 pm

Thursday, April 03, 2008

These few days, I've been busy. Basically I've been busy. Not to say I'm hardworking studying, spending time in the library and so on.. but I'm getting really worked out mentally and physically. There's been lots of activities, involving food, friends and fun. Of course, all that costs money... but does that really count? As long as you don't spend indiscriminately it should be okay and you should have provisions to satisfy your other needs such as food and an occasional drink outside with friends.

Weird isn't it. I'm not working part time,..but then I'm tired. Spending time with friends are tiring, might cost money but relationships that last is irreplaceable. Friends are burdens that you can sit on after carrying them for a while. haha * Can you see the picture * I'm not saying that you be a friend cause you expect something but rather I'm saying that as friends, we are dependent on each other.

dependent For what? Well.. for several reasons. We have different characters, opinions based on the different backgrounds we grew up in and the current lifestyles that we live in. There's a saying that goes the opposite attracts.=p But that does not apply only to gender. It can apply to other things. One example could be food consumption. haha. Some people would be more than happy to finish off the food left by a friend because the friend can only consume that much.We can complement what our friends lack. =D. Of course common interests is also important to start communication.

=P As you can see the photo's are taken during my Canning college graduation night at Sheraton hotel on the 28th March. Most of the photos are still with Janice. Can't wait to get a hold on them.hehe. I got a whole group of them to miss cell for this event. haha. But it's just once so it's fine. They're core member's too so their cell leaders must love me for that.haha.

Finally Happy 21st Birthday Melvin!

Derek | 2:35 pm